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Talking to Energy

Surrender Invites New Possibilities / # 3

Someone had done some beautiful collage. May could see the work had elements she’d never explored in her own work. She was trying to figure out how those steps were done when Carol started telling her about Serena’s collage class. May turned her attention...

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A Different Kind of Conversation / # 4

A Saturday series that explores the practical, the magical, and the energy insights for igniting changes ~ Those friends you call for a cup of coffee when life is changing are the heart beat of your experience. They are fluffy, white clouds on a glorious summer day so...

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Serendipity Feels So Much Different Than a Good Idea #2

In the past, May would get wonderful insights about something that could make her world shine. They would make her feel enthusiastic all day long. She’d make plans and see possibilities as she moved into the hours ahead. And then the vision would start fading....

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Finding the Shine in Her Life #1

The new year was moving forward with time wrapped around her ankles. She was caught in what was familiar, but no longer satisfying. Others would look at her and exclaim, “Look what you’ve done! Look at what you do!” They would point out the good and wonderful...

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Two Words Can Ignite Change

When we are ready to make a change in our life, words begin flowing through our thoughts. Very often, they are something like… “It’ll be hard, but I can do it.” “This is going to mean less family-time.” “Feels kind of selfish.” “Every time I try something new,...

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Using Appreciation to Ignite Change

Our emotions are more present and fully engaged around the missing pieces of our life puzzle because they are familiar. We have carried these missing pieces in our pockets and conscious thoughts for many spirit miles. We know their shape and color. We’re aware...

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Use Today

I’m inclined to look for the grand gesture, the leap, or the howl from the mountain top. Yet manifesting dreams more often happens with little steps. Remembering one, small thing that defines my heart’s desire and letting it become a priority today will connect me to...

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Sexual Abuse Insights

Our Personal Spirit is a Best Friend

In the undercurrents of our childhood sexual abuse, we were learning how to manage life. Using the tunnel vision of youth and feeling disempowered, we survived by shaping our thoughts, feelings and beliefs to fit the distortion of our experience. One very common...

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Seeing What We Know

Never doubt the power of pinochle-playing time. I have come to depend on it taking me to healing insights. I’m rarely disappointed. During my healing journey, a partner once hit me with two excellent questions: ”What do we do when we know we have a big, deeply...

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Talking to Save a Child

As my dog looked up from our morning cuddle and saw her shadow, I felt the Universe give me a gift of insight. This is what it feels like to carry trauma memories… dark images skirting around the edges of your sunshine. She barked at the scary shadow...

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Confusion

Learning about life in a cauldron of childhood sexual abuse leaves survivors with simmering confusion. Many of our impressions and beliefs about ourselves were born in psychological chaos. We arrived at adulthood too wise and achingly innocent. We began traveling down...

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Why Didn’t Abby Tell Someone?

I hear the question, “Why didn’t Abby tell someone?” and I’m struck by how profoundly disconnected we become as passing years take us away from our childhood. I don’t recall one conversation in my grade school classroom on the play...

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You Find the Secrets Deep Inside

My first memory of childhood sexual abuse blew my world into a million fragments. I was 42 and felt like everything I knew about my life was now scattered at my feet like pieces of a puzzle that needed to be put back together again. As I clung to “Courage to...

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Going to Feelings

Every moment of our childhood abuse asked us to manage the incomprehensible. Without personal power, we had to withstand what shamed, frightened, hurt, confused, and sometimes threatened our lives. One tool most survivors used was shutting down their feelings. After...

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Can’t Stand the Pain, Leave

In the ordinary events of life, I didn’t know my mind had the amazing ability to protect me. That understanding came to me during my healing journey from childhood sexual abuse. And it brought a conflict.   I moved through motherhood not knowing parts of my youth were...

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Princess Chelan

No matter how whole we appear to others, survivors of trauma memories know it’s an illusion. We feel our shadow-self. When we look in the mirror, it obscures what others see. Compliments and praise are swallowed by the abused child’s shame before the adult can taste...

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Road to Recovery

The road to recovery becomes paved with insights over time. The journey begins in the deep, dark, and intimidating forests of our experience where no path is visible. Finding our way to the sunny meadows of our lives is a daunting adventure of self-empowerment, but we...

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It Doesn’t ‘Just Go Away’

There is a moment in our healing journey when our denial crumbles and we realize our experience and its continued effects on us won’t “just go away”. That’s our breakthrough moment. It’s the sun coming out to warm the seeds of hope so they can grow our personal garden...

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Memories Revealing Themselves

An ordinary memory sits like a photograph in a family album. It’s always available to visit by thumbing through the album. A trauma memory is not pasted in the photo album. It’s relegated to the attics of our mind to be stored in the unconscious. Dissociation happens...

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Six Years Old and No One Listens

Survivors of childhood sexual abuse are bound to bump into the howling, painful recognition of being alone in their experience. There was no protection… no soft, understanding place to go when they needed it the most. In healing, this realization opens the door to...

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