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5-Star review and finalist in Readers Favorite Awards - Women's Fiction

It can be a heavy burden to sense 'something happened' without being able to remember what kidnapped your potential, joy, and serenity.

Spirit Unbroken: Abby's Story
is giving readers insights and courage to finally find their answers.

It's disempowering to have fragmented memories haunt you while fears you don't understand drive your choices.

This book takes you into the experience that left you wounded. Shining a light of understanding on the dark corners of childhood sexual abuse, it is changing lives.

                         You can't heal or change something you don't understand.

Spirit Unbroken: Abby's Story is changing shame and confusion into self awareness.

Reviewed by Anne B. for Readers Favorite

"Jeanne McElvaney is a talented writer. I wasn’t sure what to expect when I picked up this book. But I am glad I read it. McElvaney is a storyteller extraordinaire!"

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Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

An ordinary memory sits like a photograph in a family album. It's always available to visit by thumbing throught the pages.

A trauma memory is not pasted in the photo album. It’s relegated to the attics of our mind to be stored where it can be ignored.

Dissociation happens when a trauma memory is ripped into pieces and locked in a vault without our knowing the photo was taken.

 

Sandy Bacon, a therapist, said…

I have never read a better description of dissociated memory. Dry, academic explanations of this condition are unable to touch the complex, nostalgic, and deeply moving way this author has been able to take the reader directly into the depths of this state of mind.

The wonder of this book is not in just showing the reader how it happens: Jeanne McElvaney has a wealth of research woven through the story as well as personal experience. I recommend this book to every professional who works with PTSD as well as his or her patients. It’s a resource as much as it is a novel.
                                                               

Chevy Kneisley, a survivor and educator wrote…

“Spirit Unbroken: Abby's Story”, is intense, honest, lyrical, funny, compelling, and incredibly well told. You reach the end better informed and wishing you could spend more time with the main character, Abby.

 

~ Chapter 61 ~

     There was always a sweet day in spring when the sunshine finally became hotter than the cool breeze coming off the snow-capped peaks at the head of the lake. On that day, Abby was learning how to apply perfect layers of fingernail polish. Sitting on an old towel on the newly mowed lawn, she had filed her nails into even, gentle curves. It had been a challenge to follow the directions from the article in the Good Housekeeping magazine, but Abby had made sure she moved the file from the outer edge toward the center instead of sawing back and forth. After much effort and concentration, she was more than a bit pleased that all her nails were the same length and she was determined there would be no polish lapping over her cuticles. The ten cotton balls sitting at her side were testimony to her persistence. Scattered around the bottle of nail polish remover and covered with light pink, frosted, nail polish, they held the evidence of her efforts and filled the air with acetone.
      Abby's nails were finally beautifully done, and, later than afternoon, it was the only thing she thought about when her dad led her down the basement stairs of the dental office. When he walked her into the darkness and shut the door, Abby couldn't see into the far end of the windowless room, but she could feel the unusual thickness of her nails. The only light, coming from a second doorway, cast a weak, yellow glow and didn't dispel the lurking depths where Abby was led. For her, there was nothing but the shadows in front of her and the new sensation of her polished fingernails.
      When Abby found herself sitting on the end of the table, those nails dug into the palms of her hands. Time stopped moving in ticking, forward progression. In the sea of darkness with her fingernails the only lifeboat, time became disjointed snapshots of sensations and impressions. The coarse contours of her dad's face filled her view. His smile twisted as the pillow case came down over her head. A cough broke through the silence and dropped out of the air somewhere behind her.
      In a prison of fabric, her mother's laundry soap assaulted Abby's nostrils. Footsteps, coming from the slip of light behind her, scratched her soul. A vise gripping one knee and then the other sent streams of cutting pain up and down her legs. Cold, smooth metal on her stomach burned. The poking, prodding, panic, and pillowcase came together in senseless sensations. Abby couldn't breathe.
      Under the suffocating hood, she felt the friendly hand of death reaching for her, but Abby's body kept going, and the secret room in the corner of her mind gathered the mayhem of four men. Mind and body protected while those with power ravaged. This moment in time was placed in a thick safe, far from Abby's knowledge about herself, but the lesson she learned would come out of the basement with her; she was on her own. The threat to her survival had spread into the ranks of Lakeville.
      That evening, Betty agreed when Abby suggested sitting on the towel earlier in the day had made her legs ache. This young teenager, who would soon leave 8th grade, sat with her little sister after they had taken their baths. She was going to re-apply the nail polish on her right thumbnail. All her other nails looked perfect, but that one nail had a gouge, and Abby was convinced she hadn't let it dry completely when she had painted it earlier in the day. Ignoring the unexplainable soreness in her thumb joint, she plugged her hair dryer into the outlet to use between each of the three layers of polish and turned her attention to Katie.
      "Barbie definitely needed a bath tonight," the 5th grader informed her older sister. "April and I took our Barbie dolls down to the beach and they got all sandy." Under Katie's sure hands, the well-endowed blonde with a tiny waist and feet permanently shaped to fit high heels was being relieved of her yellow bathrobe and shower cap.
      "What did they do at the beach?" Abby asked as she carefully applied the first layer of pink polish.
      "Well, after we made a swimming pool for them, they sat around so they could get a tan," Katie answered and then, seeing her sister was really listening, she shared more. "We used a big, blue mixing bowl buried in the sand and it looked like a real pool," she explained. "It was so cool! And then we found a whole bunch of flat rocks and put them all around it. That was our patio."
      Abby nodded, and Katie continued her story while she began dressing Barbie in a form-fitting red dress. "We made hammocks for them too... like the one at April's house, except we used sticks instead of metal. Her mom's dishcloths looked almost like the real hammock. The colors sort of ran back and forth in stripes and made squares."
      "I love hammocks," Abby responded as she turned on the hair dryer and directed it's stream of hot air on her thumbnail. "Do you remember Gramma's, out by the raspberry bushes?"
      Katie giggled. "It was always tipping over and, that one time,you fell right on top of me when I was trying to get on."
      "Yeah," Abby laughed.
      "I like how Gramma has big bowls of raspberries in the refrigerator," Katie observed as she placed the straw hat on top of Barbie's head and looked at it. "You get to eat as many as you want," she added with a sigh and moved the hat to the side so it slanted over one ear.
      Abby turned off the hair dryer and watched her sister moving the hat around, looking for just the right angle to satisfy some inner image she held. "Where's Barbie going after you get her ready?" she asked Katie.
      "She's going to bridge club," Katie answered and laid her doll down so she could put on her short, white gloves.
      "Oh, does she like to play bridge?" Abby asked as she took the bottle of nail polish off the corner night stand and got ready to work on the second coat.

                                                                       

 

This story celebrates and explores:

Women and Empowerment - the kind that celebrates our spirit.

Life Purpose - embracing and sharing the best of ourselves.

Being Happy - the courage to honor our personal spirit.

Change Your Life - the ultimate power.

Personal Development - our stunning inner wisdom.

Self Improvement - the most daring journey.

Self Awareness - our inner compass.

Childhood Sexual Abuse - there are 40 million of us.

Survivors of Abuse - choices are our strongest ally.

Effects of Chld Abuse - our experience continues to drive our choices.

Abuse Recovery - embracing our truth can heal us.

Abuse Survivors - our personal spirit is strong.

Healing Abuse - information is power.



by Dr. Radut.