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Releasing Shame

We can’t escape our childhood sexual abuse without shame. It sticks to us no matter how much we achieve and in spite of loving relationships. This disempowering feeling is one of the big challenges in healing… which means it also holds some of our richest insights to help us live our potential.

For me, healing this misplaced belief about myself meant going back to the moment shame seeped into my being and took root. That’s when I got to see the circumstance in context… through the eyes of childhood, trauma, powerlessness, and betrayal. That’s when I could see the shame I had taken forward was not mine… and release it.

Road to Recovery

The journey begins in the deep, dark, and intimidating forests of our experience where no path is visible. Finding our way to the sunny meadows of our lives is a daunting adventure of self-empowerment, but we don’t have to travel alone.

Since sexual abuse was first declared a “crime” in literature of the 80’s, many allies have armed themselves with knowledge, compassion, and tools for helping us. Each survivor has to choose each step we take, but therapists, survivors groups, and books can provide light. So can body work, energy insights, healing touch, shaman ceremonies, hand analysis, and other healings of heart and spirit. Only we can choose the pace or who we will invite in our circle of support. That choice is part of our healing. It defines us and calls on us to trust our inner wisdom.

Two Words Can Ignite Change

When we are ready to make a change in our life, words begin flowing through our thoughts. Very often, they are something like…

It’ll be hard, but I can do it.”
“This is going to mean less family-time.”
“Feels kind of selfish.”
“Every time I try something new, something stops me.”

The words we associate with change come with strong feelings. They are rooted in old beliefs and create an energy pattern that becomes the foundation for our change. We’re daunted before we take the first step.

Quantum Thinking reminds us we get to choose new words to build the foundation of change we want… and doing that will transform our experience.

If there’s something you want to shift in your life, look at the list below and pick two words that most resonate for you. Now place them at the end of this sentence: “This change is going to be… “.

For example, “This change is going to be bold and magnetic.”

If you keep these words in your thoughts and use them as a guide for making choices, your shift will follow a different path. You’ll notice bold things happening with ease and joy. You’ll find empowering events, people, and experiences magnetically drawn into the change you are making.

Words are powerful energy! They can be your ally. The more often you consciously connect to the two words you choose, the more you will experience their magic. Sing them. Write them on post-it’s that are placed in unexpected places like inside a drawer. Silently speak them as you stretch. Talk to them as you walk or drive.

When words from the past catch your attention, choose to focus on your two new words. Make these the strong foundation of a change that will be bold and magnetic!

Which two words make your heart sing and your spirit soar?

Abundant Adventurous Active Amazing Artistic Astounding Astonishing Authentic Avid Aware Awesome Balanced Beautiful Bewitching Blissful Blazing Blossoming Bold Breathtaking Brave Bright Calm Captivating Centered Cherished Compelling Colorful Cosmic Daring Decisive Delicious Electric Effortless Enlightening Epic Exciting Exhilarating Expansive Expressive Fabulous Fascinating Fiery Flying Flexible Forceful Fulfilling Fun Gentle Glorious Golden Groovy Gutsy Harmonious Illuminated Imaginative Infinite Inspiring Interwoven Intrepid Jazzy Joyous Juicy Kinetic Lionhearted Lively Lucid Luscious Magical Magnetic Masterful Musical Natural Noble Nourishing Open Organized Original Overflowing Peaceful Playful Plentiful Prolific Profound Psychic Radiant Refreshed Resourceful Sassy Sensational Serene Soaring Solid Spiritual Strong Successful Sweet Surprising Talented Tender Thrilling Timeless Tickled Valiant Vibrant Victorious Vocal Whimsical Wild